'The groom had HELP ME painted on the soles of his shoes': Woman Recounts A Wedding That Was A Disaster From Beginning to End

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    r/weddingshaming u/KarizmaWithak • 3d Here is my "Worst Wedding" story for you all! (Long) Disaster
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    This happened years ago but I still remember everything. One of my coworkers was getting married to her longtime boyfriend and for some reason, I was the only one from our work to be invited so my husband and I got dressed up and went to the wedding.
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    We arrived at the church about 15 minutes before the 2:00pm ceremony only to see a crowd of people standing outside the closed doors. I asked what was going on and someone said that the doors to the church were locked. Some people pounded on the doors but nobody answered so we all just stood around in the hot August sun. There wasn't any shade and no place to sit while we waiting. Some people went back to sit in their cars to wait. Someone finally appears and said that the wedding party photos w
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    An HOUR later (I don't know why we stayed), the doors to the church finally opened and people literally ran into the church and just sat wherever. The groomsmen were trying to tell people that they had to wait to be escorted to their seats but we all just needed to get out of the sun and sit down before we all passed out.
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    Then we waited. And waited. 30 minutes later, the music starts and finally the wedding party appears and the bride joins her groom at the altar. They had a very young ring bearer who promptly dropped the rings off the pillow (why they weren't tied to the pillow with ribbons, I do not know) and you could hear the rings hit the ground and start rolling so all the groomsmen get down on their hands and knees to crawl under the pews looking for the rings. Luckily, they found them and the ceremony con
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    We arrive to reception and look at the seating chart and find our table, which was right next to the buffet. Yes! We were absolutely starving by this point. Our table mates were a fun group so that was nice. Then we waited. The staff can't start serving until the wedding party arrives. There's one single cash bar in the corner but no water or anything on the tables. We wait and wait. The food is just sitting there yet we couldn't touch it.
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    AN HOUR LATER, the wedding party finally shows up. They were so late because they had decided to drive out to the beach to take pictures and then drive around in the limo partying. The staff starts serving up the food onto individual plates and those plates were served to each table, it wasn't a "serve yourself" buffet. Because our table was right next to the food, I could see that there wasn't going to be enough for everyone but thought they'd replenish the food (nope) and that because we were
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    Throughout the reception, the bride and groom never once talked to their guests and they and some members of the wedding party kept disappearing for long stretches of time so the dancing, cake cutting, etc couldn't commence. Turns out they were going up to a room to do lines of € Nice. The bride and groom finally had their first dance but the song they chose, Procol Haram's "Whiter Shade of Pale" went on for way too long and people had reached their limit and there was a mass exodus, including m
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    Shiny_Agumon • 3d Nothing makes me angrier than tardy wedding parties. Like if you are going to do extensive photoshoots beforehand why not at least tell people to come an hour later instead of letting them cook in the sun? Same with the impromptu party on the limo, at least call the hotel and tell them to start serving without you, but no who cares for the guests it's all about us. ← Reply ☑ 531
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    Erickajade1 3d Did you tell everyone at work how it went ? Reply 134 KarizmaWithaK OP.2d I did tell my coworkers that a lot of things went wrong and weren't thought out properly but I talk the bride because I liked didn't want to her and we still had to work together. 31
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    iangel19.3d Why does fast food after a terrible wedding always taste so good? MLiOne 3d • Reply 444 Deep hunger makes anything taste better than it would normally. WitchesBTrippin • 2d Hunger is the best sauce 181 62
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    beckerszzz. 3d I love reading these way too much. And it makes me think...had different cousins from the same side of the family get married in the past few years. One couple didn't come talk to the visitors at all, the other definitely made their rounds. The one that made their rounds even apologized because her mom was talking to our table while she moved on. They also had a fantastic spread for food. Huge cookie table along with great appetizers while they did photos before we went up to do t
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    Hoodwink_Iris • 2d One of the rules of food for a large party is to plan for 20% more than you think you need. Expecting a total of 100 people? Plan for 120. I thought everybody knew this. Reply 51
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    Silent-Ad-5926 · 2d • I was raised this was as well. I completely understand that food/catering costs are a huge chunk of the budget. But if you can't do it properly, then don't do it at all. I was raised to have a mindset of "it's better to have too much food than not enough." I've thrown bday parties, anniversary parties, bridal showers for family; and me and my family have never been close to running out. We either have leftovers for a get together the next day, or send leftovers home with wh
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    jethrine • 2d What gets lost among all the hoopla regarding "It's MYYYY day! I can do whatever I want!" is that a wedding reception is a party that you're hosting & hosts have an obligation to see to their guests' comfort. Why are wedding receptions seen differently from other parties? Why do we accept such poor treatment & explain it away as "it's their day?" It may be their day but other people are taking the time & expense to share it with people who supposedly care about them & deserve bette
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    OlderDutchman • 3d I admire you for staying so long. I had left after waiting half an hour for the food. If a wedding couple has so little respect for the people who make the effort to come to their wedding, I don't need to feel guilty about not waiting. Reply 81
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    cakivalue 3d It's clear they only had wedding guests because social mores say weddings have guests and to get gifts because it's perfectly clear they disliked all their guests and just wanted to party hard with angel dust among themselves. ← Reply ☑ 78
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    Sea_Introduction5996 • 2d I was one of the last people of my friends and family to get married. Every single wedding I had been to started late, so I was dead set on my own, starting on time to be courteous to my guests. It still started 5 minutes late because my grandmother procrastinated on getting ready. It would have been even later, but when I realized she wasn't ready yet, I called her on it, and she responded, "All weddings start late." I looked her dead in the eye and said, "Not mine, yo
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    ParticularJuice3983 • 2d I just don't understand how people can treat their guests so poorly. I mean don't invite people if you don't care about them. ... Reply Ŵ 17 ♡
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    christmasshopper0109 • 2d Not sure they even NEEDED guests. It was a private party anyway. Gracious how rude. Reply û 17 ♡
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    Educated Rat • 2d I am older and for the last two decades I have had "scheduling conflicts" for work people weddings. I have no regrets. I'm happy to give a nice card, and a gift, but I am not going to work people weddings anymore, and it's very freeing. Reply 35 ↓
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    Muscle-Cars-1970. 1d My spouse still gets salty about a coworker's wedding we attended. It was in a venue that hosted multiple events at once, so the valet parking was nuts - we basically had to leave our car on the road w/the keys in it because they were so backed up. This was after an hours-long gap between the wedding and reception (involving long drives in opposite directions) in which we went home, changed into sweats to keep our nice cloths rumple free, then had to get dressed and head bac
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    AHOY Western Researcher376 • 2d So the extra money that could be offered to make all guests comfortable such as open bar and extra food went to drugs... nice. Sorry you went through this ... Reply 15

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